by Bashir Oyetunji
You wonder if you’ll ever become happy considering your problems and crises. You wonder if happiness is just like a star in the sky that you would only see but unable to grasp. “It is so hard for me to get back on track and feel happy again,” you thought.
Yes, it is not easy. You’ve gone through hell. You’ve seen enough, and you think you’d rather remain sad and gloomy than feel happy about anything. However, I’d advise you to think twice. Just as you’re thinking you’d always feel sad, I want you to consider happiness again. Why? That’s because it is full of ingredients that would nourish your life, bring you up, and revive you.
The price of sadness is costlier than that of happiness. Happiness will repair your body while sadness will damage it. Happiness will help your worldly and spiritual lives while sadness will damage them.
Stop in your tracks and look back with a smiling face then continue your journey with a face full of smiles and joy.
Reasons why you should be happy
Okay, let’s face it. You think you have no reason to become happy. But if you stop to think about it, you’d realize there are reasons why you should be happy. Would you consider the following?
One important reason why you must be happy is the fact that you will be able to work well and consequently move on in life. When you are sad, your heart, mind, and body would just not be good to carry out important tasks. In such cases when you miss important tasks, that could cause a lot of negativities in your life.
I can still relate this feeling to a time when I was sad. At that time, important writings that I should’ve done were halted. I didn’t realize until Allah made me carry myself up. Afterward, I realized what I’ve missed and what I’d have gained had I been writing for that period of sadness.
Sadness is just there to eat up your active charisma. It’ll leave you dormant and unable to work or to work well. On the other hand, happiness will gear you to work and what fantastic thing to do in order to keep your life going.
- You’ll drive away suspicion from people
One thing I hate to happen is when people ask, “Oh brother, what’s wrong with you.” This tells my mind that, “oh something has struck you, guy. Wake up.” When you wear a sad look, it makes people ask about what is wrong with you and this could be nauseating sometimes.
Sometimes, you might not even want to tell your challenges to people, but when you are being asked what’s wrong with you then you’d be pushed to either say what’s bothering you or to tell a lie which is bad.
- You’ll influence people around you
Even when you are not a motivational speaker, the contagious nature of happiness will tend to radiate to the people around you and you will find yourself influencing the people around you through your affable nature.
If you are to think of it, you will notice as was earlier said that you will be active when happy. This happiness will influence you to work, assist people, tend to those who need you, etc. So, when you do this, it is natural that people around you will be happy. Not to talk of when this happiness even influences you to do extra work of going further to tend to people’s issues. This will make you contribute your sweet quota to bring smiles from people’s face and this is what you should live for.
- You’ll not leave a chance for Shaytan (devil)
Sadness is not only a way of draining your happiness but it is also an opening for Shaytan. The accursed Shaytan will tend to use this chance to insinuate bad things into your mind. He might insinuate suicide into you. He might insinuate other egregious things into you. He might tell you to just do those bad things since this life is just worthless and nonsensical anyway and that you don’t have any reason to still remain your good self.
However, you have Allah to hope in and you have a brighter future ahead of you. But Shaytan will want to talk you down suggesting all kinds of evils. This is one kind of evil associated with sadness. It is one thing worth getting happy.
Additionally, Shaytan will suggest to you to overthink things and makes you think you can’t get help. Buy nay. That situation is not unsolvable. So fight your mind to be happy and leave no space for Shaytan.
Overthinking and sadness have physiological and psychological effects on you. On one side, you are making yourself prone to high blood pressure and the likes. On another angle, you are punishing your heart and keeping yourself away from beneficial work. In fact, you are also prone to spiritual effects with sadness. Spiritually, your faith will be touched and that would result in thinking suicide and other bad things.
Happiness will improve you all round. It will help you physiologically, psychologically, and spiritually. You’ll be free and active, beaming with pride and joy. So why not embrace happiness in contrast to sadness.
Why you must be happy
- Know that the world is transitory
You should realize whenever that feeling of sadness and despondency come that this life is only for some fleeting time. Whether we all like it or not, this life will end. So why make yourself sad over what is ephemeral?
The world is so funny that one time passes while another comes. Barely can you remember what went on when you were very young. You would realize that some bad events might have happened to you at some past times but at the present time, those events are barely remembered.
You can relate some examples. Some national events have occurred and at their time of occurrence, everybody would be all talking about it. However, after some passing times, those events would die down and you would barely hear people talk about them again.
That’s how most hard times are. The challenge you’re facing would pass bi idhniAllah and you would open a new beautiful page. But don’t spoil the new page with being sad. Sometimes when you are looking for a job some people will ask, “What have you been doing? What are your experiences?” If you spoil your present time with sadness and you fail to get up to work, you would later blame yourself because you won’t be able to present anything at such a time.
Moreover, the world itself is just for a brief period. It will definitely end one day. So, why not do the primary assignment we’re assigned in the world and be happy.
- Happiness is better for you
Weighing happiness and sadness, then you would realize that the price of sadness is expensive than the price of happiness. So, why wouldn’t you choose the cheap one? Happiness is good for your body, mind, and soul. You would be able to work well and relate well with people when you are happy. You would be able to influence people and think well. Sadness, on the other hand, will leave you in despair and dejection. So wouldn’t you rather be happy?
- You’ll become thankful to Allah
One thing you’d appreciate with happiness is the fact that you’ll not be ungrateful to Allah for His blessings on you. When you are happy, you will be able to think straight, look at those below you, and give thanks to Allah.
Sadness will make you hate your life. You will always be looking at those above you and barely say AlhamduliAllah for the blessings you have.
Happiness will, after making you thankful, make you beg Allah for even more while sadness will make you reject the blessings Allah has bestowed on you. Your ultimate blessing is Islam and you might not recognize this when you are overcome with sadness, may Allah forgive us all. So, be happy always and be thankful for the little but big blessings you have.
How you can be happy
You would realize now that you need to really stay happy. So, how can you be happy all the time even when your heart bore sadness? Below, you will read some nice tips to stay happy all the time insha’Allah. I hope you’d utilize these tips and be your happy self.
- Never let sadness be written on your face
When you give yourself the mandate to never allow people see sadness in your face or, more importantly, to never give your heart a breathing space for sadness, then you will make it a point of duty for yourself to always be happy.
The point here is, whenever you’re feeling sad in any way, you must quickly disdain it and replace it with happiness in any good means possible. When you feel a speck of sadness, make it your point of duty to wipe it off fast.
This prayer includes all acceptable forms of obligatory and recommended prayers and supplications. Your important antidote to happiness is just to believe in Allah in your affairs and rely solely on Him for your betterment. Pray that Allah make you happy all the time. Do supplications that are recommended at specific times such as in the morning and evening, before and after taking off your clothes, before and after using the toilet, before going out and when coming in, etc. There are just many you can do. Do naafil prayers (recommended prayers) such as solat duha, naafil before and after obligatory prayers, sunnatu-l-wuduh, etc.
Immerse yourself in payers and supplication in night and day and always make Allah your recourse whenever you feel weighed down by a sad feeling.
- Ensure you don’t build any estranged relationship
A good ingredient for your happiness is to ensure you don’t have any malice with anybody. Free your mind and this will help you too. Say or text “I’m sorry” to people who deserve it. In fact, reach out to the people who, perhaps, are the ones who have offended you. Just make amends with everyone you know and never allow to be in between you and another person any malice or ill-feeling. This will free your mind in contrast to the ransom that malice will hold your mind in.
- Listen to the Qur’an together with its translation
You should listen to the Qur’an all the time as this is a sure soothe to your mind. More so, you should even run fast back to the Qur’an at times of sadness. This will so soothe your mind miraculously and systematically. To enjoy this soothing blessing, you should even listen alongside the translation. Here, you will get Qur’an together with its English translation insha’Allah https://thequranreciters.com/
- Do dhikr (remembrance of Allah) a lot
There are lots of dhikrs that have been revealed in the Qur’an and Hadith that you can always do. SubhaanaAllahi wabihamdihi subhaanaAllahi-l-‘adheem is one. SubhaanaAllahi walhamduliAllahi walaailaaha illallahu waAllahu Akbar walaahaola walaa quwwata illa biAllah is another. And there are just many others. Do these often to ward off sadness from your heart. You should even move fast to doing them whenever you feel you are about to be overcome with sadness.
Moreover, there are specific prescriptions at some specific times that are in the sunnah (Prophet Muhammad’s – peace and blessings of Allah be upon him – traditions). There are prescriptions for when you are in distress, feeling anxiety and sorrow, when affairs are becoming difficult, when afflicted by a calamity, etc. You can get this in the popular book Hisnul Muslim (the citadel of the believer). You can download the book using a web search or you can also download it on App Stores on mobiles.
One way to fight sadness and embrace happiness is to get your mind accustomed to happiness instead of sadness. Never ever allow sadness into it. Make it a habit. Whenever sadness is coming, just fight it back and embrace happiness instead. With this, you’d have trained your mind and over the time, sadness will be going away even at extreme times bi idhniAllah. Also, use all other points mentioned to get your mind trained.
- Be with God-fearing and lively people
Another way to get over sadness is to be with people who fear Allah and who will not add to your sorrow. You can share your thoughts with them or just be around them sharing good things and playing out with them. You can participate in collective community or mosque works where you’ll be around good people. This will diffuse your thoughts and make you feel happy.
- Share what’s disturbing you
When you feel sad, then you can share your thoughts with someone you love. Be cautious with this as it is better to have your thoughts to yourself than share it with an untrusted person. So, know who you share your thoughts with and when you are assured of the kind of person, then share your mind as this will ease your mind.
A way to ward off sadness is to always do istikhaara at times when you need to make a decision. This will ease your mind in regards to any decision you are willing to take. You will feel confident and feel at ease at heart when you seek Allah’s guidance in your decisions. So, whether you want to travel, buy something, go on an event, marry, etc., just seek Allah’s guidance and you’ll surely be guided insha’Allah.
- Don’t listen to criticisms
You need not listen to criticisms about you. This may dampen you and lead you to feel sad. Of course, you need to be better, but most criticisms are just there to make you feel worse at heart. They are founded to harm you. This does not mean you should close your ears to good suggestions, corrections, or advice, but you should try to identify these from bad criticisms as the later can leave you feeling unhappy.
- Don’t be disturbed by your brother’s achievements
Whenever you see any good thing from your brother or anybody, you should rejoice and even pray for them. Feeling sad over your brother’s achievement in respect to your woes will only affect you negatively. Consequently, you will be sinning to Allah.
When you see a new thing from your brother, say maa shaa Allah and pray for them. Never try to think about the fact that you are not having that thing. Train yourself as regards this as it is what Allah wants and it is what your heart will find peace in.
No matter what you are or you’ve achieved, just know that the world is still ephemeral and that everything will end. So, take things easy. Be calm, gentle, and happy. Never overthink things and give your heart a rest. May Allah grant you succor.
You must be happy. You must not allow a speck of sadness in your heart. Happiness is good for you while sadness is just not good for you. So, try, pray, and strive to be happy all the time. Utilize the tips mentioned here and make it a point of duty for yourself to be happy always. You would be happy bi idhniAllah, won’t you? May Allah bring happiness into your heart. Stay happy always!