I still remember how a lifelong relationship could have been destroyed had I not humbled myself and utter the words, “I’m sorry.” I’m thankful for that!
The event occurred between my sister and I. I was unaware that she’d started looking around for a commodity I asked her to help me buy (while she didn’t want to tell me the ardor she was going through to get it).
My ignorance made me reacted in a foul manner by saying foul words to her. I thought she wasn’t helping with the errand. I had to retract my words and apologize and that made all the difference.
I’m sorry are those few, simple words that appear easy to pronounce, but, honestly, are hard to utter. You would think a block is in your mouth preventing you from saying those words.
Thinking about it, I’d say I’m sorry can cut or spare, unite or disunite.
Hear out my thoughts. There are very many inter-tribe, inter-state, or inter-nation conflicts that arose as a result of a mistake from one party to another. So, imagine that the erring party apologized and let go of their shame, would any conflict have arisen?
But when—and that’s what happens most times—such a mistake is accompanied by a pompous feeling and a refusal to apologize, imagine what could result thereby.
The Power of I’m Sorry
As abstract as it is, that simple sentence can go deep down into the heart of an individual and soothe it.
This is what some married couples lack and which is tearing them apart. Most partners would not admit their mistakes, so I’m sorry will be hard for either of the partners to say.
Usually, this sentence seems like portraying the sayer as the one at fault and this simple fact is what most people would not want to admit. When there is no one at fault, everybody is right.
However, mutual understanding can just amend this misunderstanding and everybody will be sorry for their action.
Another tricky part of I’m sorry is that when people tend to say it just for the mere talking, it seems to be devoid of life and, sometimes, effectless.
If elders had not been pompous to say I’m sorry, then most feud would have been averted. If younger ones (imagine that too) have not been pompous to say the words, then the world would have been a better place.
I’m sorry makes you lower yourself in humbleness. And to do that it takes real forbearance.
Characteristics of I’m Sorry
As simple as it is to say these words or even to fake it, they don’t come out of the sheer opening and closing of the mouth.
These words are gigantic and so have some attributes which would make them effective.
- Fully Accepting Your Wrong
It’s not just about the words coming out, but it’s about knowing that the recipient deserves it. Perhaps, that’s why it’s hard for people to say them most times.
- Saying Them Sincerely because You Regret Your Actions
When you say I’m sorry while regretting your ill actions, those words, I bet, will be weighty to the recipient and will have the needed effects they should have in the mind of the recipient.
- Saying Them because You Really Want a Settlement
So, here is the point where you’d just have to say I’m sorry even when you don’t really offend the recipient. Here, you crave only for settlement. In this case, you will really have to mean the words as if you’re an actor—can you act?
Most times when this happens, you’ll most likely get back your I’m sorry from the receiver in the future. That’s because s/he might later realize s/he is at fault.
But the main point here is that you have to really mean your repair-apology and say it for the purpose of friendship. Importantly, you must not misbehave later on in retaliation to the undeserved apology.
I’m sorry can heal, dear reader. They are powerful words and, sincerely, I’ve seen them work. So, fight that why-will-I-apologize urge and say I’m sorry. Please do. Let’s make the world a better place. Let’s keep a healthy relationship.