Why You Should Not Get Yourself Worked Up Over A Matter

by Bashir Oyetunji

“Only if people could pin down some days of their life, but they can’t.”  [L. A. Oyetunji]

Days will come and go. Sweet days will be alternated with sour ones, and sour days will go away by Allah’s will.

You: “What has happened to me? I have a big problem.”

Me: “Okay, yes, you have one but why should you brood so much on it you allow it affect your productivity?”

You: “It is easy for you to say that. Isn’t advice easy to give?”

Me: “True, it is easy to give advice, but I’m sincere with mine. I want you to stop getting worried.

“Importantly, reflect, reflect. If reflection doesn’t surface now, it’ll later, I’ve noticed this. Many things which happen to us have their reflection points.

“I’m sincere. It’s not gainsaying. It’s not like those other words. Take a bit of reflection on my following analyses.”

Five years before this time, some people had a novel challenge, we’d say. Forward to this time, they may not even remember again, Allah’s willing. Even if they do, it, probably, might not be that heavy like it was from the initial stage.

Why don’t you pray now? Let go of your worries and be favored by the reward of patience.

Perhaps, your problem is a call to action for you, for you to get-up-and-go. Let it be ingrained in the bottom of your heart today that your challenges in shaa Allah will move you to somewhere, someplace. Someplace good, yes. But you need to be patient and prayerful. You need to be dutiful and get closer to Allah. Without patience and prayer, you may not achieve anything with your challenges; you’ll only be brooding and then time will be going off, and perhaps, you may be moved to branch the no-go-areas (all things that are in discordance with Allah’s commands) which you must not do.

Now see, I have two links for you to read

https://islamqa.info/en/30901

https://islamqa.info/en/210410

Read them and think about them.

Trials and tests are from Allah. I need you to, however, be patient, be repentant.

Okay now see, really, people will talk and stop. That’s the basic. Talks will stop someday. There are enough on people’s table than talking on your matter for days on end.

Okay, what if they talk, it’s none of your business. Assure me something, however, be right. Be fearful of Allah. Be repentant. Even if it’s really a fault from you, repent and be dutiful to Allah. Then know that Allah forgives. Work righteousness and move on.

Say: “O ‘Ibâdî (My slaves) who have transgressed against themselves (by committing evil deeds and sins)! Despair not of the Mercy of Allâh, verily Allâh forgives all sins. Truly, He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful (Surah Az-Zumar 39:53)

Never stay. Never brood on a spot.

Where were you when you ate your phlegm and your classmates laughed at you? You can’t even remember. You’ve forgotten that. Now, you’re a bigger person.

Allowing yourself to remain in a spot because of your errors is no solution.

Suicide, suicide you say. It is not a solution for two reasons:

1. Do you despair of Allah’s mercy?
2. Ponder on this hadith

Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) narrated that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever throws himself down from a mountain and kills himself will be in the Fire of Hell, throwing himself down therein forever and ever. Whoever takes poison and kills himself, his poison will be in his hand and he will be sipping it in the Fire of Hell forever and ever. Whoever kills himself with a piece of iron, that piece of iron will be in his hand and he will be stabbing himself in the stomach with it in the Fire of Hell, forever and ever.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5442; Muslim, 109.

It is like a kindle to your fire.

Just think clearly about this:

Allah burdens not a person beyond his scope (Surah Al-Baqarah 2:286)

Think again:

Verily, along with every hardship is relief (Surah Al-Inshirah 94:5)

Whenever you remember this verse you should feel assured that Allah will make it possible for you to handle your situation and that you’ll come off your problem in shaa Allah.

So, wouldn’t Allah make true His words?

So be patient (O Muhammad SAW). Verily, the Promise of Allâh is true (Surah Ghafir 40:55)

You must be strong.

Yes, it’s true your problem is unique, but it can never be overwhelming for your Creator.

Yes, it is big, but it is always surmountable with Allah.

How have you been living all these while? You, really, can’t even say if you want to. It is unexplainable. Systematically, consciously or subconsciously Allah will make a way out by His Power.

Assure me of one more thing:

Supplicate to Allah.

Utilize supplication-answering periods. Do the obligatory prayers and ensure fervently to do the voluntary ones. Spread your hands to Ar-Rahman to have mercy on you. Seek his forgiveness. Spread your hands in humility. He is the creator of heavens and earth. He creates everything inside it. He sustains them. He knows what’s in your hearts.

Remember my dad’s words, “only if people could pin down some days of their life, but they can’t.” So don’t worry. By Allah’s will, those sad days will soon go. Brace yourself. Laugh. Get to work right now. Say hello lovingly to friends and family. Assure them yourself that it will be well by Allah’s will. So move on. Move on my friend, come on 🙂

​When All Hope Seems Lost

by Bashir Oyetunji

Are you in a state of despair? You think your existence is useless, and that all headway is blocked? You think nothing is working right, and that you don’t care what happens.

You seem unable to control yourself, and your mind tells you to commit evil, or worse still, suicide.

Relax a bit! Wouldn’t you rather use that state to your advantage? That is, instead of committing evil, you should rather do beneficial things (by utilizing the following).

• Get Fiercer to Break Out

When you think that all hope is lost and that you’ve got nothing to lose, then your thoughts would be wild. You would feel like doing just anything. So why not use that feeling to break out of your comfort zone or dormant state. Then move into the world of creativity; the world of unimaginable invention.

Here, don’t move into a state of breaking the bank. No! Rather, let that “I don’t care state” pull you not to care to use all that remains on you to invest, or even to buy yourself a cup of tea in order to keep journeying. Let that down state get you harder into doing your good heart wishes.

 

 

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• Get Armed

You’re already armed with your current state; you’re armed against fear. Your heart feels like nothing can happen that will pain you. Try then to utilize the strength to travel away in search of happiness. Don’t use that arm to take lives; instead, use it to kill the procrastination and block in you.

• Utilize the Gusto

The gusto is your having nothing to lose. So when you believe that, why would you not apply for whatever job you’ve been afraid or shy to apply for. Sell what you’ve been procrastinating to, as a result of shyness, sell. Talk to the love of your heart that you’ve been shying away from talking to. Explore the halal knowledge you’ve been yearning for. Go out and learn more about Allah and His religion. You have nothing else to lose; so, try, rather than commit evil.

The no-go Area

You must neither kill yourself nor commit illegalities. These two things have absolutely no good for you. It may lead to your destruction in this life and in the hereafter, most especially when you don’t have the chance to repent before you die.

Always have it in mind that the world is a microcosm. Worry less about it, but worry more about where you’re going. Try as much as you can to it well and transit well. Pray to Allah always.

Go forth and enjoy your life in the light of Allah’s obedience.